Postdate: 30 November 2016
Thoughts have a big impact on your behaviour, both in a positive and negative way. According to psychologist Judith Beck, there are undermining thoughts and supportive thoughts which you can use to steer your own behaviour. Funnily enough, you use the undermining thoughts more often, while you should learn to have more supportive thoughts.
Undermining thoughts are often those that give you permission to sin. The first line usually is something like "I know I shouldn't eat this, but...". These thoughts are an assault on your self-confidence. You catch yourself making a mistake and then you judge it harshly. Instead of telling yourself "this was a small mistake", you say "I am such a loser" or "I cannot do anything right". Undermining thoughts cause stress and they are not positive. These kinds of thoughts are usually related to taking big steps in a very short amount of time.
Contrary to that, supportive thoughts have a positive effect on your self-confidence and motivation. It is important to have positive, supportive thoughts to counter all your undermining thoughts. A good example is when you have a piece of cake standing in front of you and you feel like eating it. You can counter this thought by saying to yourself: "I don't need to eat this, because..." Maybe you are just about to have lunch, or you are not hungry, or you are only looking for a distraction. It is then important to speak rewarding words to yourself when you succeed, like "I did a good thing by not eating the cake."
The first step is to become aware of the thoughts that pop up in your mind, whether they are positive or negative. Only then you can change your thinking pattern. Take pride in every step you take and don't judge yourself when you don't succeed: tomorrow is another day.
'Thoughts have power; thoughts are energy. And you can make your world or break it by your own thinking'